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  • Writer's pictureJessica Condon

Mastering Self-Discipline: Setting and Respecting Your Own Personal Boundaries

One of the very best things I've learned this year comes from master life coach, podcast host and best-selling author, Nancy Levin. Her insight isn't complicated, it is simply true.

Are you ready to hear it? I am excited to share this with you! Levin tells us that boundaries are between you and you.

Of course, there is more that goes into setting boundaries, and we will get into that in this article. However, by remembering that boundaries are between you and you, who holds the control? That's right, you do. When our boundaries are overstepped we can often feel powerless. This is a good reminder to reinforce, or maybe even re-evaluate, our boundaries.

Boundaries are Crucial

Creating boundaries with yourself is an essential aspect of personal growth and development. It involves setting limits for yourself by defining acceptable behaviour, thoughts, and actions. By creating boundaries, you can protect your mental health, prevent burnout, and improve your relationships with others. This article will explore why creating boundaries with yourself is crucial, how to set them, and some tips to help you maintain them.

Why Creating Boundaries with Yourself is Important

Boundaries are important because they help you establish a sense of control over your life. When you set boundaries, you tell yourself and others what you will and will not tolerate. Defining what you will accept can help you feel more confident and empowered in your relationships, work, and personal life.

Here are some other reasons why creating boundaries with yourself is important:

  1. Protect your mental health: By setting boundaries, you can protect your mental health and well-being. You can protect your mental health by saying no to things that drain your energy, setting aside time for self-care, and creating a supportive environment.

  2. Prevent burnout: Without boundaries, you may find yourself overcommitted and overwhelmed. This can lead to burnout, which can severely affect your physical and mental health.

  3. Improve your relationships: You can communicate your needs and expectations to others with clear boundaries. This can help you build stronger, healthier relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

How to Set Boundaries

Setting boundaries can be challenging, especially if you are used to putting other people's needs ahead of your own. However, it is an important skill to develop to live a healthy, fulfilling life. Here are some steps you can take to set boundaries:

  1. Identify your needs: The first step in setting boundaries is to identify what you need. This includes things like alone time, a supportive work environment, or respect from others.

  2. Communicate your needs: Once you have identified your needs, it is important to communicate them to others. This might involve saying no to requests that don't align with your priorities or speaking up when someone mistreats you.

  3. Be firm but respectful: When setting boundaries, it is essential to be strong but respectful. This means saying no politely but firmly and standing your ground when someone tries to push your limits.

  4. Practice self-care: Setting boundaries can be difficult, so self-care is vital to help you stay strong and resilient. This might include taking breaks when needed, practising mindfulness, or seeking support from friends or a therapist.

Tips for Maintaining Boundaries

Once you have set boundaries, maintaining them is crucial to ensure that they continue to work for you. Here are some tips to help you maintain your boundaries:

  1. Be consistent: Consistency is key when it comes to maintaining boundaries. Make sure you stick to your boundaries, even when difficult or uncomfortable.

  2. Stay focused on your goals: Remember why you set your boundaries in the first place. This can help you stay motivated and focused on your goals, even when challenging.

  3. Stay flexible: While it's important to be consistent, it's also important to be flexible. Sometimes circumstances may require adjusting your boundaries, so be open to making changes as needed.

  4. Seek support: Setting and maintaining boundaries can be challenging, so seeking support from others is important. This might include friends, family members, or a therapist who can help you stay on track.


  1. "The Importance of Setting Boundaries in Your Personal and Professional Life" by Diana Raab, Psychology Today, January 2021.

  2. "How to Set Boundaries: 10 Tips for Assertiveness" by Margarita Tartakovsky, Psy.D


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